​There’s this woman in Denmark that I follow on Instagram who will randomly do this thing called “Panic Lies” where she asks her followers to send in stories of when they lied about something when there was no reason to. Like, when someone says your name wrong and rather than correcting them you just go with it. Or when you mishear what someone asked you and then all of a sudden you realize that you actually never did go to France and have absolutely no recommendations for them but you just can’t back out so you keep making up more and more things. One particularly hilarious story that I often think on and laugh is about a woman who was doing laundry in a laundromat. She went to put clothes in a dryer but there were already clothes there. A man asked her if the clothes were hers and rather than saying no, she said yes and proceeded to take them out and fold all of them while chatting with the man. At the end of the conversation, he told her that the clothes were his and thanked her for folding them for him. She never returned to that laundromat 🤣 

Isn’t it crazy how we can so easily make things harder on ourselves simply because we don’t want to admit we were wrong? Or look stupid? When really, our attempts to save ourselves just dig ourselves into a deeper hole. 

One of my favorite verses or phrases in the Bible is when Jesus says “the truth shall set you free" (Jn. 8:32). It’s a verse that is simple and life-changing and yet, hard to apply. If the truth is what brings freedom, then why do I find myself running from the truth whenever possible? In the big things maybe not so much because I can more easily see the error in it, but in the small things? All the time! Like, I can still make it to class or work on time even if I stop to get coffee.... (untrue). Or, if I snooze my alarm again, I won’t be rushed... (untrue). Or, I’ll remember to text that person back later... (untrue). Or, they didn’t wave at me when I walked in, they must be mad at me... (untrue). Or, there isn’t enough time to share how my week really was & they probably don’t care so I’ll just say it was fine... (untrue). 

Hopefully I’m not alone in those. Or rather, I guess, hopefully I am, but my bet is that I’m not. For whatever reason, we know what is true and that truth brings freedom and yet we live in a world of half-truths and pretend in order to have a {false} sense of protection or peace. 

One of the books that I am reading for school right now is about a Christian woman’s journey with depression and bipolar disorder. She writes honestly about the horrific things that have happened throughout her life and what that looked like to raise children through it. She talks about how one of her biggest regrets is that she and her husband were not more honest with their children about why she was hospitalized. She writes “most children are very sensitive and perceptive; they understand much more than we give them credit for. Parents should explain to their children what the nature of the problem is, or the children may create scenarios in their minds that are worse than the realities of the situation.” (P. 17). 

It made me think about how often in our attempts to protect or help, we tend to make things far worse. One little half truth or white lie can easily snowball into a whole story that changes your location of where to do your laundry forever.😉 When we hide the truth, or hide from the truth, the scenario created is sometimes worse that the reality. 

Now, I’m not saying that everyone should know everything and all things that are true should be shared at all times, but I do think that there is room for growth. I do think that we, as image-bearers of the one who IS Truth (John 14:6), can increase in our ability and willingness to engage and share truth. It will require an extra amount of dependence and reliance on the guidance and wisdom of the Holy Spirit, but isn’t that the goal anyways? 

So my questions for us this week to process with the Lord are this — 

1. In what areas of my life, have I contented myself to live in half-truth or pretend? 
2. What would it look like for me to answer truthfully — honestly, authentically & completely, when someone asks questions of me? 
3. And for the parents specifically— how do I answer my child in truth while protecting, guarding, and guiding their heart and mind? 

As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Here’s a truth to meditate on:
"My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth" (1 Jn. 3:18). 

Xoxo, 
Alicia :)

I've been thinking a lot about how the way of Jesus and His Kingdom is often completely opposite to that of the world. Just when I think that I have figured out the way that God is going to do something or show up a certain way or answer that question, He flips the script. He does a new thing, a different thing. It says that God uses the weak to shame the strong, the foolish to shame the wise (1 Cor. 1:27). The Jews begged for a Rescuing King and they got a crucified and beaten man. All throughout the Scriptures we can see how God tends to move differently than we anticipate and most of the time, we love it. Or at least, maybe we just love it in the Bible because we know the end of the story. We know that the crucified man rose again three days later. But it just makes me wonder how if that is the way God was in the Bible, then why don't I assume that will be the way He is with me today? 

Let me explain. I was talking with some classmates earlier this semester in my group counseling class about how hard it is to be in the position of asking God for something over and over again. We talked about how often our intent of asking can easily slip from question to demand when God doesn't give us what we want. And then I read this quote -- 

“It’s the questions we can’t answer that teach us the most. They teach us how to think. If you give a man an answer, all he gains is a little fact. But give him a question and he’ll look for his own answers. That way, when he finds the answers, they’ll be precious to him. The harder the question, the harder we hunt. The harder we hunt, the more we learn.”

​And I realized... Sure, God's ways are higher than my ways, and He might respond in a way that I didn't expect (or pray for). And yes, God works in a backward way to the world and uses a prostitute to rescue the leaders of Israel (Joshua 2). But I wonder how often God's intent when we are asking questions, is not to answer because sometimes the lack of answer is the real thing that we needed. 

I've been reading this wonderful book called Meant for Good that talks about how Jesus asked 307 questions Himself, and He was asked 183 questions and of those, He only answered three questions directly. The author says, "The One who had the answer to every single question was less interested in giving the answers and more interested in getting people to engage with Him, listen, think, and respond. He was far more interested in relationship than dishing out answers" (p. 11). 

If the One who is our example lived His life in this way, isn't that how we should be living too? Rather than feeling the pressure to answer every question or have every questioned answered, maybe we can embrace this way of Jesus and make our home in the realm of unknown. 

Just this past week, I was teaching the first and second graders in Sunday school and they started asking me questions about how God is the Trinity. I was just finishing up a whole semester of studying the doctrine of the Trinity and yet, when a couple second graders kept asking me "But how? How is He three?" I was stumped. I ended up affirming again and again that this is where faith comes in and that the fact that we can't understand God is only more reason to trust Him. But it felt like not enough. I felt like I was letting them down and surely I should've understood this concept better to be able to explain it. Until I re-read my words that I'd written a couple weeks ago. 

For some reason, when it comes to my own questions and answers between me and God, it is frustrating but it is manageable. Whenever it is with someone else and I can't answer their questions or help them find the answers, I feel like I have failed. But God never said that was my job. God never said that I was meant to have all the answers to all the questions. In fact, God gave me the example of how to answer questions through Jesus... that is, to not. If there were 307 questions asked of Jesus, and He answered 3 directly and 183 with another question, that still leaves 121 questions without any answer at all.

So when we cannot get the answer, we make our peace with the reminder of who He is. He's the God of an upside-down kingdom who likes to do things His own way. And this is one way that we get to partner with Him. And maybe, the search for the answer is the answer in itself. 

Xoxo, 
​Alicia :) ​